A young client of mine, with a particularly strong sex drive, suffered most acutely from premature ejaculation. He climaxed after just 30 seconds to one minute of penetration. His said his biggest frustration was the sense of powerlessness he felt in front of his girlfriend.
He had the feeling he wasn’t “man enough,” and feared he would lose this girl, who had expressed to him her own frustrations and self-esteem. He tried to compensate with extra foreplay but, as she enjoyed and desired his penetration for her own orgasm, the pressure on him grew wose and worse.
After just three session, he was elated to inform me that he was well on his way to being an EX-premature ejaculator. His penetration time had already extended to five minutes, thanks to his daily practice of the specific new behaviors he was learning to solve premature ejaculation.
His new skills not only allowed him to better control his arousal, but also provided him the sense of being a better lover, and a better man in general, such was the improvement in his self-esteem and self-confidence. While making love, he found the pleasure he experienced was significantly heightened because he could better relax, let go, and more fully and completely enjoy himself and his partner. They shared their emotions more deeply because he could look at and touch her much longer. And, he attributed this richer sensuality to the new physical behaviors he learned. It was a huge, new power-boost for both his body and his spirit.
The attitude of his lover improved as well, due to her own her increased sense of fulfillment. He told me that it’s now she who worries she may lose him! But, their affection continues to grow, and their mutural attraction and admiration looks to be long-term; last I heard, they were making future plans together. This client is an excellent example of how physically managing arousal can also lead to deeper love and increased self-esteem. You could do the same. But do not waite….